Couples Therapy & Relationship Counseling
A grounded, body-aware space for the conversations that matter most—and for the ones that have felt impossible to have.
How I work with couples
Most couples don't come to therapy because they've stopped loving each other. They come because the way they're trying to talk about hard things keeps making them harder. One of you floods. One of you goes quiet. The conversation ends in the same place it always does—and somewhere along the way, you each start to feel a little more alone in the relationship.
Somatic parts work. We slow down so you can feel what's happening in your body during a hard conversation, not just react to it. Staying connected to yourself is what lets you stay connected to your partner.
Dreams within conflict. Drawing on the Gottman Method, we look beneath the gridlocked arguments to find the deeper hopes and fears that haven't quite been said out loud. Most arguments aren't really about the dishes.
Designing the agreements that fit your relationship. Whether you're rebuilding after a breach, evolving the structure of your relationship, or learning each other's neurotypes, we build clear, livable agreements together— yours, not someone else's template.
You might recognize some of this
- One of you tends to flood; the other tends to go quiet. The conversations that matter most rarely make it through.
- You're stuck in a loop—the same argument, weeks or years apart, never quite resolved.
- Trust has been bruised somewhere along the way, and you're not sure how to find your way back together.
- You're navigating a real change in your relationship—the structure, the season of life, what each of you needs now—and want to do it with care.
- You speak different languages around conflict, planning, or domestic life. You both know it. You don't always know what to do about it.
- You love each other. You also feel further apart than you'd like to admit.
Going deeper on what you're navigating
The patterns above show up in different shapes for different couples. If one of these feels especially close to home, you can read more here:
Feeling more like roommates than partners?
When the weight of work, kids, or daily logistics begins to outpace the moments of real connection, many couples find themselves drifting—quietly, gradually, without quite realizing it's happening. We slow down here. We notice what has gotten in the way. And we look, together, at how you might come back into contact with each other.
What to Expect
We'll begin with an initial session where each of you can share your perspective, followed by individual check-ins with each partner. From there, I'll put together a treatment plan focused on your specific goals—whether that's shifting how you communicate, rebuilding trust, designing new agreements, or simply finding your way back to each other.
Sessions are online via secure telehealth. Many couples start weekly and transition to biweekly as new patterns settle in.
Frequently Asked Questions
Ideally, yes — but it’s common for one partner to feel more enthusiastic than the other. What matters is that both of you are willing to show up and participate honestly. Many initially reluctant partners find the process more useful than they expected once they experience the first session.
That’s okay, and you’re not alone in that. Couples therapy isn’t about forcing a relationship to work. It’s about helping you both get clarity. Sometimes that means rebuilding and strengthening the relationship. Sometimes it means realizing you’re better apart. Either way, therapy can help you make that decision with honesty and care.
Yes. I am CNM-certified through the Institute for Relational Intimacy and work with couples in all kinds of relationships — polyamorous, open, consensually non-monogamous, and those navigating transitions in either direction. My approach is inclusive and focused on what works for your specific relationship.
In couples therapy, the relationship itself is the client. We focus on the patterns between you — communication, conflict cycles, attachment dynamics — rather than individual issues. That said, I may suggest individual sessions alongside couples work if deeper personal material is shaping the relationship.
Where I see couples
I offer online couples therapy for clients in California and Washington via secure telehealth.
Ready to take the first step together?
Schedule a free 20-minute consultation. We'll talk through what's happening and whether this is the kind of work that could help.
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